When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.
(John 19:26-27 NIV)
Just because He was suffering it doesn’t mean that Jesus didn’t notice who was still by His side. We’re mistaken if we think that those in pain are overlooking us. It’s actually during times of pain and sorrow that we get to see who really cares and who doesn’t, who stays and who leaves. If Jesus loved John more it’s because John cared more. He didn’t run away when all the other disciples did. John dared to be close to the cross of Jesus, even in the midst of fear and uncertainty. He was there for Him. And it’s to John that Jesus entrusted His mother. Why wouldn’t He? If John dared to be identified with the crucified Christ, he could be trusted with the person Jesus treasured most. If we fail to be there for those who are suffering, we can’t be offended if they choose not to trust us.
Don’t look away when others suffer because they’re looking for someone who cares.